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Who
are we?
Our
Purpose
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Your
Shadow Knows
by
Linda-Ann Stewart
Why
do bad things happen to good people? The answer to this recurrent
question may lie in something
we hide in our "mental closet". Is it a monster or a pussycat?
Let's discover it together...
I
once had a friend who was very loving and spiritual, who saw the
best in everyone. Wanting to sell some collectibles, she contacted
an old acquaintance who had a store featuring items like hers. They
agreed that the store owner would sell the objects.
A
month later, the owner abandoned her shop, and the landlord took
possession of everything in it. My friend never got her things back,
and was never paid. Why did this happen to someone who was so kind
and gentle?
Skeletons
in Our Mental Closet
When
a person is growing up, they learn that certain things are not approved
of by their parents, friends, or their environment. For example,
little girls aren't supposed to get mad, and little boys aren't
supposed cry.
What
happens to those unacceptable feelings? They get shoved into the
mental closet and the door is locked tight. But as children know,
monsters can lurk in the closet. Those feelings may hide in the
dark corners, but they will be expressed in some fashion. Combined,
they become the "shadow."
The
Universe seeks a balance and wants everything out in the open. Life
will reflect back at you what you don't accept about yourself. The
old saying that opposites attract is so true. A vulnerable, quiet
person will attract someone who is domineering. A person who is
chronically on time will attract someone who is always late. A pragmatic
business person may be drawn to a spiritual person.
Meeting
Your Shadow
When
you meet someone who embodies your shadow, generally you're uncomfortable
and do to them what you do to your own unacceptable feelings. You
try to suppress them, ignore them, put them down, make them go away.
Oddly enough, you're not really responding to the other person.
You're simply reacting to your own discomfort with yourself.
The
shadow is simply stored energy. And the more effort you use to repress
your shadow, the stronger it will erupt into your environment.
Sometimes
your shadow may be something like lying, cheating, manipulation
or selfishness. Things that you have judged to be unacceptable.
But the shadow can also be empathy, compassion, vulnerability or
spirituality.
Whatever
it is, you'll get to bump into it in your life. It's the Universe's
way of trying to get you to accept yourself fully.
Spirit
created you to be a whole person, and everyone has these elements
within them. The object isn't to ignore them, or to act on them,
but to simply accept that they're there. By doing so, you reclaim
some of your power.
Monsters
and Pussycats
To
figure out what your shadow is, just think about what makes you
uncomfortable? Is there a pattern of situations in your life that
have made you feel helpless? Think about the common denominator
of these, and you'll probably be looking at your shadow.
You've
placed your power in the closet, and it's escaped through a trap
door to loom over you. Once you open that door, you'll probably
find that the monster is just a pussycat. Most of the energy that's
been reflecting back at you has been the energy you've used to keep
the door closed.
How
does this relate to my friend? She'd never felt capable of dealing
with authority figures. She'd chosen that particular store, because
she thought the owner would take care of her valuables. Instead,
the owner didn't tell her that the business was in trouble.
And
once the store was closed, a powerful person claimed everything
in the store. She never objected. Why did she get into that situation?
The Universe, in the form of her shadow, was trying to get her to
be assertive.
Where
have you given your power away? Your shadow knows.
Copyright
© 2000 Linda-Ann Stewart - All Rights Reserved
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Death
as the ultimate Shadow in the "Mandala of Life and Death"
by the German artist Heita Copony.
The
author
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you want to ask questions to the author of this article?
Send an e-mail to info@bliss2000.com
Meanwhile,
let's introduce her. She is
Linda-Ann
Stewart
Connee
Linda-Ann Stewart is a nationally known hypnotherapist, writer,
and workshop facilitator with over twenty-five years background
in personal growth, spiritual development and metaphysics.
A
resident of Sedona, Arizona since 1982, she opened her private
hypnotherapy practice in the Sedona area in 1990. As a healer,
she empowers others to utilize their own potential for healing.
At
her website at Cedarfire.com,
she offers personal development articles, affirmations, online
spiritual growth courses, a free newsletter, and has a set of
affirmation audio tapes available.
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